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How Do I Feel Like a ‘Real’ Bisexual? June 25, 2018 . 2 Comments
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I’m bisexual. I had a bunch of boyfriends in middle school. My parents joked I was “boy crazy.” But in high school, I started crushing on a girl in my history ... Read More
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Growing Together, Individually: We Are Designed to Love Autonomously June 21, 2018 . 1 Comment
In part 1 of this series, we touched upon the blissful and frightening states that can occur when we feel merged with a partner whom we love. These states are drawn from our earliest experiences ... Read More
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Differentiation and Merging: Bridging the Chasm Between Me and We June 21, 2018 . 1 Comment
“NO, that’s NOT what I mean.” “How could you say that?” “I wasn’t finished. Where are you going?” At first glance, sudden and intense misattunement between partners may ... Read More
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Why Communication Skills Are Not Enough to Deepen Your Relationship June 19, 2018 . 1 Comment
As a clinician who enjoys working with couples, there’s a sweet satisfaction that comes from hearing partners, possibly for the first time, communicate with openness, vulnerability, ... Read More
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How Do I Fix Trust Issues After Being Caught Cheating? June 18, 2018 . 12 Comments
Dear GoodTherapy.org, I cheated on my girlfriend. Yes, I’m a cheater and I’ll never live it down. I don’t deserve forgiveness. I don’t deserve her, period! I made the biggest mistake ... Read More
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Water Is Water: Can New Rules of Engagement Help Your Relationship? June 15, 2018 . No Comments
Water is water. Are you thinking, “Of course water is water. What else would it be?” Perfect. If you’re thinking that, you’re already on the right track to understanding ... Read More
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Middle-Aged? Single? How to Cope with What You Might Be Feeling June 7, 2018 . No Comments
When we think of developmental milestones, we often think of children. But a lot of people aren’t aware that we continue to experience change points in life as we grow and age. As part ... Read More
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10 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship During Recovery June 5, 2018 . 3 Comments
As a couples therapist, I receive a lot of calls from couples in which one partner is either in or recently completed a recovery program. I wish there was a manual to help couples navigate ... Read More
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Making Love Last: The Importance of Emotional Intelligence June 1, 2018 . No Comments
Partnering for life takes dedication. Almost everyone would agree that trust and commitment are needed for every healthy relationship to flourish. But what are some of the other essential ... Read More
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7 Ways Couples Counseling Can Help May 30, 2018 . 12 Comments
Relationships can be a lot of fun, but they may also be challenging and require work at times. When we meet someone and fall in love, we tend to see only their endearing qualities. After ... Read More
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Round and Round We Go: Promoting Peace in Our Families May 25, 2018 . No Comments
In a famous 13th century prayer, a monk known as Francis of Assisi wrote, “Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console, to be understood as to understand, to be loved ... Read More
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When One Partner Wants to Leave and the Other Wants to Stay May 23, 2018 . 6 Comments
What do you to when one person wants to leave their marriage and the other person wants to keep working on it? The would-be marriage leaver may have limited motivation to work on the relationship. ... Read More