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‘Helicopter’ Parenting May Harm Kids’ Self-Control July 2, 2018 . No Comments
Many parents feel anxious about their kids’ safety and are eager to help their kids succeed. Others feel pressured to conform to cultural norms and track all aspects of their children’s ... Read More
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Making Peace with Reality: The Practice of Radical Acceptance November 10, 2017 . 11 Comments
Have you noticed a general unease, anxiety, or agitation as you move through your days, with sudden bursts of more extreme rage or anxiety when certain things don’t go your way? Do ... Read More
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6 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship September 6, 2017 . 6 Comments
Jenny met Kenneth through an online dating site. She was drawn to his rugged good looks and their shared love of the outdoors. When they met, he told her that he didn’t like women who ... Read More
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When All Seems Lost, How Do You Take Your Humble Pie? January 9, 2017 . 6 Comments
My local college football team recently lost its big rivalry game for the seventh year in a row. It happened the week after the national election, and felt like it capped an emotional season ... Read More
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Pathological Lying: The Too-Good-to-Be-True Fairy Tale August 2, 2016 . 7 Comments
There are different kinds of lies: pathological lies, lies so you won’t get caught, lies of convenience, lies for self-protection, and social lies. They all have something in common: ... Read More
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Study Says Controlling Parents Create Mean College Students January 26, 2016 . 7 Comments
College students whose parents attempt to control them through guilt, shame, or manipulation may cope with their stress by being mean to their peers, according to a study published in the ... Read More
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Do It All or Pass the Ball? The Over-Functioner’s Playbook November 10, 2015 . 7 Comments
Imagine you are on a basketball team, engaged in an important game—but you are the only person actually playing. All of your teammates are standing around talking and laughing as you ... Read More
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Powerlessness: Learning to Live with the Unchangeable June 30, 2015 . 3 Comments
Most of the people who come to my office are contemplating a life change or trying to feel better about one that happened recently. They feel stressed and unsure about decisions they have ... Read More
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Letting Go of Rigid Independence: Why It’s Good to Have Help March 11, 2015 . 12 Comments
Why is it so difficult for some people to allow themselves to be helped? If there was a spectrum on which one end was total independence and the other was complete dependence, where would ... Read More
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The Dynamics of Abuse Within Families and Relationships January 30, 2015 . 25 Comments
It is the nature of abuse within families to be as behaviorally nuanced and emotionally complex as the individuals involved. Relationship abuses nearly inevitably reveal a life-draining ... Read More
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Why You Should Wait a Month to Make Your Resolutions January 1, 2015 . 8 Comments
I remember years ago when I worked for a Smokers’ Quitline, we all had to work on New Year’s Day. On New Year’s Eve, thousands of people had made a resolution to stop smoking the ... Read More
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What to Do When You Have a ‘Control Freak’ Roommate October 22, 2014 . 13 Comments
Living with a roommate or two has become more and more popular these days, and not just among the college-age population. For many adults, the rising cost of living, coupled with the nation’s ... Read More